Ty Tashiro is a psychologist, author, and relationship expert. Searching for love can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re trying to find the right person. So what traits should we actually seek out, or avoid, and how can we give ourselves the best chance of finding our person? Expect to learn why happily ever after is so hard to find, why people have difficulty envisioning their romantic future, why we only get 3 wishes for our partner, the biggest mistakes people make when choosing a long-term partner, why some people are drawn to relationships that are really tough, if it is possible to optimise your chance of finding the right partner by increasing your odds of timing and randomness and much more… Timestamps: (00:00) Is It Hard To Find A Happily Ever After? (03:09) Are We Designed To Be Monogamous? (08:57) Why Do We Find Difficulty In Visioning A Romantic Future? (16:24) Differentiating Passionate Love And Companionate Love (24:19) How To Know If You're In Love (33:03) What To Look For In A Partner (43:23) Traits We Should Avoid For A Relationship (57:06) Green And Red Flags To Be Aware Of (01:08:13) Does Compatibility In Personality Matter? (01:14:35) Reasons Why People Are Drawn To Challenging Relationships (01:32:48) Is There Such A Thing As Optimising Serendipity In Love? (01:48:20) Where To Find Ty Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 10% discount on all Gymshark’s products at https://gym.sh/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM10) Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberma - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices