Dr Jonathan Shedler is a psychologist, author, master clinician and clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California. We do not understand ourselves. Almost all of what is inside of our minds is obscured from us. We don't need to exclusively despair though. With a little work and some good insights from psychoanalysis, the view can be made a little clearer. Expect to learn why people believe that their suffering makes them more moral than others, how you can create a false identity without realising, the ruthless danger of projective identification, how come it's easier for us to see people as either good or bad, how extreme envy can manifest, the manipulative strategies we all enact without thinking and much more... Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (00:48) The Need for Psychoanalytic Psychology (06:11) What is Moral Masochism? (15:32) Developing a False Self (21:16) The Relationship Pattern of Transference (27:49) How Projective Identification & Splitting Works (46:11) Everyone Engages in Repetition & Enactment (50:50) Using Reaction Formation as a Defence (54:22) The Sub-conscious Act of Displacement (1:00:46) One Thing Dr Shedler Wished People Knew (1:03:21) How to Choose the Right Therapist (1:16:01) Where to Find Dr Shedler Extra Stuff: Check out Jonathan's website - https://jonathanshedler.com/  Follow Jonathan on Twitter - https://twitter.com/jonathanshedler  Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices